WHY IS SELF-WORTH IMPORTANT AND HOW DO I GET IT?
SELF WORTH IS THE VALUE THAT WE GIVE TO OURSELVES AND WHAT WE FEEL THAT WE ARE ‘DESERVING’ OF…
As I started to learn about how our brains are wired, about how flexible they are and how complex they are, I was hooked. It also completely changed my life. The concept that with the right tools, consistency, curiosity and compassion we can literally re-wire our brains. Sounds mind-blowing doesn’t it!? That’s because it is really and the latest research in neuroscience backs this up.
Our minds are shaped and the foundations of our belief system are created in childhood. Our upbringing, our culture, our experiences create the foundations of these belief loops and this is where we get our concept of self-worth. This is important because our self-worth is then what shapes our decision making and our behaviour.
One of the areas that I’ve become the most interested in during my own mindfulness journey is releasing the links between our self-worth and manifestation.
Manifestation gets an interesting reaction. However, when looked at from a scientific angle, it makes a bit more sense. Think about when you are looking at buying a new car. Once you settle on the car that you want, you see that car everywhere. This is our mind at work. The cars were always there, it’s just our perception that changed.
Meditation, journaling, regulating and understanding emotions, breathing. These can all be used to break the loops of unhelpful thinking and allow us to create new pathways. It doesn’t mean that you will suddenly manifest crazy out there things but it does mean that you can become more aware of what is in front of you. What you truly want and take opportunities that are there for the taking.
However, depending on the shame, trauma or pain that we are holding on to - these loops keep us in the same behavioural patterns and thoughts and what we believe is what we come to create. However, we can forge fresh new ways of thinking, we can strengthen our brains and learn to master our fright-fight-flight primal responses. We can raise our self-worth and change what we are attracting. Take a look at the following statements, perhaps use this as a chance to journal and write out the ones that connect with you the most. If you find that you’re filling up your paper, then perhaps it’s time to start ‘training’ your brain:
I wish that I was more in control of my life
I often feel like I’m on a roller-coaster of emotions
I feel like I’ve got no direction and that life is passing me by
I agonise over making decisions
The way that I feel about my body and how I look depends on the mood I’m in
I care more about everyone else than I do myself
I struggle to find and develop healthy relationships - there are patterns
I want a partner and a family but don’t feel that I’ve got any control of this happening
I sometimes resent people, even friends and family that have a better lifestyle than me
I give most people a curated version of my life because I don’t want them to see the reality